Category: Parent Talk
Ok so I've searched and to my knowledge, there has been no ***real*** topic started on adoption.
As you all know, Rebecca and I live in Florida, which banns "known" same-sex couples adopting.
But i am curious, both to have a topic to discuss and to get answers to questions that some people might be wondering, but don't know who or how to ask.
If you think you're so inclined, then, here they are:
Okay, here gos my answer.
As a blind individual, I find any discrimination against anyone appalling, no matter what views are at stake. Anyone who is able to provide a good, secure, happy home for a child should be allowed to do so. My husband and I are considering adopting somewhere in the future. Not because we are infertile, (We have a son right now), but because we want to give a child a safe loving home, who otherwise wouldn't have one. I wouldn't care if it were an open or closed adoption. I feel that if the parents are willing to be a part of the child's life, so be it, as long as they are of the understanding that now that this child is with us, they are our child, and they must respect that. I think that anyone willing to provide a stable, loving home should be a parent, if that's what they want to do. No, I don't think fees are necessary or fair, but unfortunately, the society we live in is so dependent on money, it really doesn't matter your intentions. In order to do anything, charitable or otherwise, you must pay some kind of fee for it. It's dumb, but that's the way it is.
I am definitely for adoption.
Ok, this is a difficult one for me, but here we go.
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I think it could be the answer in these circumstances (though I don't think these are the only reasons for adopting). My husband and I have looked at the adoption option, and the one thing holding us back is the fact that in most American states (if not all) the mother has up to 6 months (at least) to change her mind and return for the baby. At least this is our understanding, and we're not sure how to (A) minimize this occurring or (B) deal with that kind of heart ache.
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Depends on the circumstances. If I was doing it for a family member who simply "Couldn't take care of the baby", I think an open adoption is fine, but outside of special circumstances I'd have to go for a closed adoption. I'm not saying that I'd ever keep from a child that he/she was adopted, however, I think an open adoption gives an individual to much access to a child they've stated they don't want. Isn't it obvious? I worry about loving and losing a child? *smile*
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No, I don't think the fees are necessary, but as has been stated, unfortunately, the society we live in is to monitary based. When examining the adoption issue I found it would cost us as much to adopt a child from our own country as it would to adopt one from abroad...Interesting, huh?
Hello there I think this is a great topic to be talking about I am doing a paper on same sex marraiges and did any one know other country have more that will get marraiges to for the u.s. we only have one state. so keep the answers coming thanks and
And what does that have to do with the questions raised by the original poster?
I would adopt,
I would go nuts if I adopted a child and the mom cam eback and took it away, I would not want to have the family arround but when the child got older, I would let the child decide. My mom and herbrother were adopted, My moms was a sild cast, she was hart broken, my uncles was able to find his famly again and don't care much for them.
I thought the fees were to help pay for the hospitle payments and stuff from the baby being bornen? I am not shure thogh, Iwould not mind a fee as long as it wasn't rediculisely costly, and you would have to pay doc visits adn baby being born anyways if you had it yourself?